The Parent Portal Weekly

The row about banning phones in schools carries on as if it were still to be decided. In England, 90 per cent of secondaries and almost every primary already stop phones during the day. The research on what changed afterwards is stranger than either side of the argument would like.

Nearly every parent of an anxious child does it: the extra check, the fourth answer to the same question, the night spent on their bedroom floor. Then a team at Yale ran a trial in which they treated only the parents, and the children never met a therapist at all.

A talking teddy that answers every question sounds like a gift for a busy parent. But a decade of research on toys that do the talking, and a wave of AI bears pulled from shelves this winter, points to something quieter a child loses when the toy holds up its end of the conversation.

Offer a child a reward for something they already love, and something strange happens: they often start to want it less. A famous experiment with felt-tip pens shows why, and it changes how we should think about sticker charts, pocket money for reading, and paying for good marks.

Have one child and the comments arrive on cue: won't they be lonely, spoilt, a bit odd? It turns out that worry has a birthday - 1896 - and a single doctor's name attached to it. Nearly a century of research has been quietly taking it apart.

Every parent knows sugar sends children bouncing off the walls. But when scientists fed children sugar in careful trials, they could not find the effect anywhere - and one experiment suggests the rush was mostly in our own heads.

We hand children worksheets to practise reading comprehension, as if it were a muscle. A famous experiment with a baseball passage suggests we've misunderstood what comprehension actually is - and why some children read every word and still miss the story.

More children are arriving at school unable to hold a pencil, use scissors or fasten their own coat. Occupational therapists say the reason isn't the screen itself - it's the hundreds of small, fiddly jobs a screen quietly replaced.

You are told, gently and often, that raising a child with two languages will make them talk late and muddle their words. The research says almost the opposite - and the story of how we got the bigger promise wrong is stranger than either side of the argument.

We hand our children labels before they can spell their own names: the responsible eldest, the easygoing middle, the spoiled youngest. The biggest studies ever done say the labels barely hold - but the newest one found something we got wrong in a more interesting way.